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Thursday, October 2, 2008

Seriously!!

I am feeling really beat down today. We started trying potty training today in full force. No more diapers. My stubborn kid refuses to pee on the potty. He can control himself, so well, in fact, that he can hold it for HOURS to avoid peeing on the potty. Around naptime he had drunk a full sippy of juice and needed to pee so bad he was crying that his stomach hurt. So I figured it was his bladder about to burst, so I put him back on the potty, and he trickled a little, for the first time EVER, then did it two more times. I put a pullup on him for nap time, then he started freaking out again saying he needed to potty. By this time he was hysterical and standing in the bathroom and squirting every time he let his breath out. He just couldn't hold it anymore. So back in the pullup he went and I closed him in his room, about to cry myself with frustration. (This was the after fifth pair of underwear in one morning). Minutes later he came to his door and his pullup was FULL. I mean the guy held in a whole bucket of pee for about two hours.

Anyone have any advice on how I can get him to just let go and pee on the freakin potty!? I don't understand why he won't do it. When he did pee, his little potty makes cool noises and he got about 100 hugs from me, stickers, AND goldfish. With all that good loot, why won't he do it again? Someone who has done this before help me out! I am at my wit's end, and it's only been 12 hours.

I am right now listening to a repeat performance at bedtime. He's already 30 minutes past bedtime, and hasn't peed in almost 5 hours!

3 comments:

He knows the plans... said...

Caleb is a child who needs to think he's in control. Remember, you can't force a child to potty, and if you start getting frustrated its only going to make the situation worse. You've introduced the potty. Now, maybe leave the diaper off for just a little bit each day or not at all for a while. He knows that he gets rewarded for going, so maybe he'll show interest on his own. If he doesn't do anything in the next week, try again. Think that if you are forcing him to go every 20 min then you are training yourself not him. Also, maybe offer a "treat" just for sitting on the potty. It sounds like he's afraid to go. My potty thoughts that aren't in any order since I have to get K to school, but Good luck!

Jennifer said...

Wow he's persistant. I'm not sure what you can do but if Caleb is scared of the potty you might want to make him unscared of it. First, has he seen Greg use it? I know that might be gross but my kids get a view of us (correct gender) and realize that is just what we do. Nat comes in with me sometimes because I'm preparing her to not be afraid. I made it an exciting thing for Philip to be using the potty and not the diaper by driving home the idea that he's a big boy now and diapers are for baby. He also wanted to use it like us "grown ups" since he had seen us use it and not die from it I guess. I also let him flush (being in control) and bought him a stool to stand on. I've heard you can make it a game and give them something to aim for in the inside (that flushes down) so I've seen paper boats etc. Then he would be proud the use it and it's fun then flush (control) and wash the hands. Be consistant. I know when we go to public toilets, Philip doesn't like the loud commercial sounding toilets so he covers his ears so it can still be scary. I had bought him a stool to stand on and a little toilet seat that fits on the big potty for his little butt. He liked that it was his size for him and with cartoon characters on it. He got used to putting it on and off until he just one day decided he didn't need it (Almost 5 big boy!). I did pull ups at night and told him he had to wear them until he could hold it all night for 3 nights in a row. I praised him in the morning when he was dry and told him to go to his "morning potty" which we till call it to this day. I said, everyone HAS to do a morning potty. First take him to the potty and find out what's scaring him. The noise? the hole is too big? too tall.. and go from there. Defintely maybe have greg show him. I know they like to be copy cats. That's how we got Natalie... who's 20 months old to brush her teeth every night now. She wants to do it when we do it. Good luck, keep at it and he'll get there. He's a smart guy.

Jennifer said...

OH I forgot to add, I trained my son straight to a regular potty and skipped the little ones. Maybe he's scared of that because he doesn't know any one else uses it. Look online. I went straight to the big one that my son was use to but with the little kid seat and stool.